How would you approach a pretty girl on the street? She’s on the corner pushing some shopping cart filled with bags, groceries, and a cute outfit – ooze! She’s got what you want: A ULTRA-clean apartment that shows off her figure tastefully. A fresh manicure and pedicure, some very nice makeup and, of course, those imprints of fresh lipstick on her face.

She’s well-dressed, well-groomed, and has that “it” factor. She’s not, however, sharing the same status as many other attractive women in the city. Men are going out of their way to approach and talk to her, but they REALLY don’t know what to say once they start.

What do you do? How do you break the ice? How do you do those first break-outs work? How do you keep her engaged and wanting more?

It’s not easy, and for the guys who don’t have “it”, I should tell you, it’s REALLY not impossible.

It’s a process.

Once you have found, met and babysat the mother (or in-laws…it doesn’t really matter who), you are free to go hunting.

Sadly, most guys in my position incorporate the “f rejoining” dance really, really slowly. It’s a nice warm-up for their minds to fire up.

SOME of the desire simply comes from not BEING in a relationship, wanting to MORE, BE MORE, and enjoy the pleasures of a relationship that follows.

But it’s a vicious circle that evolves. First, you aren’t in the game, so you don’t know what women want, so you don’t know how to approach and relate and WHEN to fire her up and get her CHANCE.

Then, when you ARE in the game, you don’t know how to relate and how to ignite femininity. So you stay home and stay busy…and pretty soon, the desire just keeps escalating.

But when you are out on the field, loathe to leave, you are pretty much at a loss.

But one thing to keep in mind while learning how to approach and relate with women on the street level is…one of your biggest fears is that you will screw up.

As much as you want to be more successful, you also want to avoid screwing up in what appears to be your natural environment.

Learning how to respond to a woman on the street level is very much a case of “hundreds of thousands of men” versus ” one man.”

Let’s face it, as a man; you have been trained to believe that the only thing a real man has going for him, apart from a nice physic, is his money or status.

But this “fear” of screwing up ( fear of women ) is where most guys make the error. Because once they start approaching ( increasing their presence versus their experience ), they start to feel that fear. Fears of failing, of getting rejected, and the impact of the “real world ” on your masculine, crafted self-image.

This fear OF WORRIEDOM suppresses the natural assertiveness of men.

So guess what?..

All those other guys who I wrote off a few moments ago? They’re equally as afraid of nurturance and are dogmatic about the quality of our masculine “sexual energy”.

There is absolutely no way for any of us (at least the “uninitiated” among us) to utter the perspectives of masculine sexual presence and warmth without experiencing the painful consequences of “being real man” or “manning up” –ways which involve a denial of what we are here to experience.

Besides, more importantly, “how can I write about it without getting everybody freaking out!”

You can read an article like this: Blow Them Away: The Watercooler Challenge (and other stuff)

That’ll solve that problem. So, back to the concerns, I raised about some of you guys flying the nest.

Consider this a lighter side of the mesh of Revealing and Being collapsed and observed millions of years ago with the gators out on the line hunting. The hunt was very real and very deliberate. Nothing is funny about that!

Now years later, we have these quieter, less aggressive, and highly evolved creatures at large. The hunt is no longer loud displays of animal hides produced for the tribe but instead silently calculations that make you have a high status in your group.